what donna said…

“How do we present ourselves as women? What are we asking? Are we asking for it by presenting all the sensuality and all the sexuality?”


Donna Karan

That’s what Donna said, and the discussion about sexual harassment, and what it has or hasn’t got to do with sexuality and what women wear, has just heated up to scorcher level.

While I find it really repugnant, this endless picking at what women should and should not do, I can’t leave it alone, because it’s a topic that’s too important to gloss over. 

Walker Thornton

I can’t stay away from discussing it and either can my friend, Walker. Let me introduce you to Walker Thornton

“Sex Goddess, published author, avid reader, grandmother… all labels that work to begin defining me. Lover of bourbon, woman finding her voice, growing older with audacity. For starters…

Divorced, single and slightly over-educated, I came to this work through my lifelong love of writing. Writing for me is a personal journey as well as a tool to inspire, inform, and educate others.  In my writing I explore sexuality, relationships, women’s (and men’s) sexual health, aging and other midlife topics.”


For the next week, Walker and I are going to have a discussion, here, on my zine. Please join us as we ask questions of each other, and ask your own questions, disagree, discuss.

My first question to Walker:

“Why do we, as human beings, men and women, need to express our sexuality outwardly, with clothes, grooming, makeup, etc.?”

London Transport

Just when I thought we had enough material to ponder, this.

I have written about Heist tights several times before, the last time here. Today, I’m not going to go on and on about how much I love everything about them, (although I do) because today I received this from them.

11perfecttights1210compv2Heist is known for the innovation, diversity, and playfulness of their beautiful ads, but apparently the people who run London Transport, think you may be offended by a woman’s back! Before this ad was approved, as Heist says:

“…we were censored! Transport for London told us to Photoshop a bandeau top over our “overtly sexual” image. Yep: apparently a female back is too offensive for public viewing.”

In reply, women have found scores of ads showing bikini clad waifs in advertisements, saying things like, “is your body bikini ready?”

I’m sure you’ve seen these too, we have them here in the United States. Whose values do decisions like these represent? It all seems so very arbitrary when it really shouldn’t be. 

Women’s bodies: decisions are made about them without them, they are critiqued, shamed, abused, and yes, censored. To read more about Heist and the censorship, go here, to the Evening Standard.




  • Rachee says:

    I grew up in a culture that blamed (blames) women for what happens to them bu how they look. I am ashamed to admit that I find myself thinking that a woman’s looks may have something to do with the attention she gets. This is something I am working on. I am not outraged by Donna Karan. She works in an industry that literally judges women! I want this to change and figure starting with me is a good place to work on these negative attitudes.

    • Anita Irlen says:


      I totally understand what you’re saying. The fact is, some women do dress provocatively to get attention and then become irrate when they receive it. However, it’s what happens from there that really matters. And yes, Donna Karan, well she’s just being disingenuous, I think. Thanks for the comment! It’s so cool that you want to work on a negative attitude you have, self-awareness, we all need more.

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