“pretty privilege”


 Men And Aging

This is a great little comment, from my friend Eileen, to yesterday’s post about Isabella Rossellini and “the revolution.” Eileen and a friend were pondering… 

“We were wondering why men aged better than women? I just figured it out when I opened your blog.

It’s because we think they do.

We accept their aging, we admire their physical change. Women haven’t been given the nod to embrace their transformation.”

Pretty Privilege

If you like good, thoughtful writing on current topics you should know the online magazine Medium. Roxanne Gay author of “Hunger,” has been curating an anthology this month called Unruly Bodies at Medium

The latest article, written by Chelsea G. Summers, (“A former academic and an ex-stripper…she writes about fashion, sex, abortion, aging, robots and other stuff.”) is wonderful.

Here’s a quote from an article that talks about “pretty privilege,” Botox, Susan Sontag and much more. 

“The skin is very interesting, because it’s a container,” says Dr. Lynne Zeavin, a psychotherapist with a practice in New York. “It’s an envelope, really, for the whole body. And to have there be a visible impact, like the signs of time, is very interesting.” When you think of our skin as our envelopes, that thing that holds our essential, visible self together, then it’s rational to feel anxiety over cracks in the fissure. Zeavin says, “It’s very threatening to many people, especially in our culture, where being physically attractive is the way we meet the world and is the interface by which we feel the way other people feel about us.”

Lots of women here, stay with me…

This Is Not Your Mama’s Pantsuit

I tried this dress on recently, at one of the MM.LaFleur showrooms here in New York. If you’re no longer a part of the working world, you may not have heard of them.

MM.LaFleur sells what they call “business formal” garments for working women. 

And they’re a part of the growing “showroom” shopping trend. While it’s not necessary to visit one of their showrooms to shop, it’s one way in which they try to make shopping easier and more enjoyable.

Yes, this dress looked very nice on me. And get this, it’s washable!


“Isn’t it so interesting how women are always comparing, seemingly from birth? My 5-year-old daughter has started comparing herself to her classmates! I feel like we need to do less of that, and now seems like the perfect time to start.”

Liselotte Watkins



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