there is only space for the truth


rachel peru style


“We all know that this is the end of the comedy. For Everybody. In one hundred years from now, everybody’s going to be bald. This is it. And you know that you have to use every speck of your life to do the things that you want to do. There is only space for the truth. There are no more games. The games kind of disappear, and you just concentrate on things that are really important.”

—Antonio Banderas

Antonio Banderas had a heart attack for all of us, and we should be grateful. People who come back from heart attacks, cancer, an accident, or any kind of “near death experience” always have something juicy and incisive to say.

Banderas took it to another place, a truth filled, poetic place.

I admire his eloquence, and I love the way he phrases things. You can tell that English was not his first language, yet he expresses himself so well. And how good is this: “We all know that this is the end of the comedy.” 


Fashion Institute of Technology


“Known worldwide through knowledge unique to the House passed down from generation to generation, the Stockman mannequins are used by the biggest names of high fashion and the fashion industry. Hand-crafted in the shop located next to Paris, the Stockman busts have the elegance and refinement of knowledge do the French.”


If you’ve ever been around dress forms, or “dummies,” as they have been often called, you’ve seen Stockman imprinted at the neck. Because, like a lot of designers, seamstresses, and fashion type people, I have a thing for dummies, I had to find out more about this mysterious “Stockman.”

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eileen fisher, not-quite-perfect

Victoria and Albert Museum 

the real perfect boot

eileen fisher

Not quite perfect but close. I went to an Eileen Fisher, “Not-Quite-Perfect” sale on Saturday at Fab Scrap. The skirt fit me perfectly, and I think you’ll agree, looks good despite the wrinkles, the only thing wrong with it . 

Because I didn’t have a lot of time, and because I didn’t want to shop for shoppings sake, I more or less grabbed 4 things and headed for the ersatz dressing room.

That’s Leslie, my dressing room-mate. She put on pant after pant, and they all looked good on her.

Some sweaters, pants, skirts, and dresses, did have pulled threads, or small holes but nothing that couldn’t be easily mended. This skirt, although a really yummy, heavier knit,

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choose your influencer

photo: Greta Thunberg’s Facebook page

choose your influencer
older woman sexuality

When I started writing this post, on Monday, Greta had not yet given her speech at the U.N. Then she did and the shite really hit the fan. The haters came out in full strength. Then, after her speech, I reposted a quote on Instagram, that I grabbed from the brand Tome:

“Let this give you pause: @gretathunberg is changing the world, @kimkardashian is designing it more spanx. Choose your influencer.”


I read a concise little article, by Jennifer O’Connell, at the Irish Times recently: “Why is Greta Thunberg so triggering for certain men?” At first, it is quite puzzling. Middle aged men have been belittling this small powerhouse of a 16-year-old, in the press and on social media, like she was some sort of modern-day plague. 

Well guess what, she is. She’s a pox on the patriarchy, and the best part of it is that she doesn’t care what they think, that’s not what she cares about and that’s precisely what enrages the men more than the truth she speaks.

They don’t like that she makes them listen, they don’t like that she speaks with confidence, they don’t like that she quotes scientific facts, and that she’s speaking at the U.N. this week, but what positively enrages them is that she doesn’t care what they think!

She’s supposed to care, she’s a female child. 

What enrages me about these men is that I experienced the same thing when I was a young girl. While I was nowhere near as poised, well-informed, or dedicated to anything at Greta’s age, I was what was called “rebellious.” I always questioned authority, especially the authority of older men. Why this was true is complex and a story for another time, but that’s my experience. 

At times, I’m sure that my “opposition,” and the way I expressed it, was inappropriate, more often though, I believe it was spot on. I knew that what I was hearing and seeing, or being asked to do was wrong, and perhaps like Greta, my 16-year-old life experience had made me fearless.

She’s supposed to care, she’s a female child.

What the men who ruthlessly and relentlessly attack Greta are seeing in her is the unfiltered behavior that young, strong, and intelligent girls portent: Greta will grow up to be a strong woman, a woman who speaks her mind articulately and with confidence.

The men, and some women, are full of foreboding. No one knows what will be, very few of us think that we’re heading towards some kind of utopia but, inevitably, Greta’s detractors will fade away. And whether or not I’m here when they do, I can’t wait.


These earrings are made by Avery Gregory. If you like natural colors, the colors of the earth, and if you like shapes and multiples of things, and if you like rocks, and clay, follow her on Instagram.

The earrings are ceramic, almost 3″ in diameter and very thin and light, like fine wafers.

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a pink polo shirt

a pink polo shirt: 
alternative palette

More northern skies.

polos and khakis

The TV commercial, either for medication or insurance, opens on an older couple strolling, hand in hand, on the beach. Perhaps there’s a big dog running ahead, perhaps not. The couple is dressed nearly identically, she in a pink polo shirt, he in a light blue one; he in “khakis,” she in “capris,” most likely white.

They are, for all intents and purposes, dressed like toddlers, no, babies.

My eyes immediately begin to roll, and my hand inevitably reaches for the remote and mute button. What is going on here? Why are these olders dressed like this, and what does it mean?

It’s a truism that the “elderly” often come to resemble babies in meaningful ways.

But while some aspects of the aging process may be inevitable for some of us, e.g. diapers for incontinence, no one need ever put on a pink polo! And older couples need not dress alike, like twins in a double stroller.

Although they may feel like twins, people who live together for a long time do really come to resemble each other, this “twinning” baffles me, especially when it’s done intentionally. It seems like some kind of “blending” that some people are comfortable in, but I want to ask why.

Are people infantalizing each other and themselves, in essence telling the world “we’re done,” or “we’ve reverted to a former state?”

Are they saying they no longer want to own their age and experience? 

Or are they, as I believe, most often adhering to the expectations of a society that values individuals less and less as they age? Marginalized into invisibility. 

And when “casual” dress becomes every day dress, as it has, the continuum of aging  from child to adult to elder can all be “covered” by the simple, the big, and stretchy, asexual, “athletic” style. And from brunch to dinner you’re ok in your capris and khakis. Another option:

“There is, for example, a style that can be termed “sweet old lady” dress. A distinctive style characterized by floral patterns, soft fabrics, frills, high necks and long sleeves, it represents an enduring mode and not just clothing that is out of date (though such is the nature of fashion that it is periodically in vogue, usually identified by terms such as granny style.)”

—Julia Twigg

I like this man’s style.

alternative palette

Grind and Glaze

If you follow me on Instagram, you know that my fall palette, what I like, is generally darker than this and it contains more “red” and “blue” tones. But this is a nice alternative. It really reminds me of the colors of the leaves one sees in Central Park in the fall. It’s lighter and less mood than what I tend to be drawn to.

This “colorstory” is from Grind and Glaze, a small batch, sustainable, and low waste brand by Tessa Clark, a designer and a design contestant on Season 17 of Bravo’s Project Runway Reality TV show. How many fashion designers do you know from Cincinnati? Well, now you know one.

When you go to look at Tessa’s site or Instagram,

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