monday monday

Due to technical difficulties this weekender couldn’t be published on the weekend, hence monday monday.

None this week, nothing hit me over the head

Picture of the week


My followers liked this one. This is Diana Villalobos Barrera. She’s an award wining Mexican designer, who’s currently living in Shanghai. I met her at the fashion show for emerging designers I mentioned in last week’s weekender. Her work is kind of “mad max chic.” She is overtly political, on the back of her jacket, for example, it says: #FOR DREAMS WITHOUT BORDERS. I love that! At the show, absolutely everything the models were wearing, was made by Diana, down to the boots.

Diana is the kind of young, cosmopolitan, politically enlightened person I love meeting and being around. I’ve said it before, the fashion world is not perfect by any means, but it’s willing to stick its neck out when necessary. And while there’s still a lot of towing the old line, people like Diana are going to push envelopes until things are truly rainbow colored, truly diverse and multicultural. 




Slides, they’re all the rage. It seems like there are quite a few sandal styles, that are being called slides. I’ve seen Birkenstocks and Doctor Scholls called slides.There are the by now classic Nike “shower shoes,” and their pricier cousins the highly embellished Chanel ones. There are furry slides, in both real and faux fur, and there are baboosh type slides. 

I’ve seen flats, 2″ heels, and even platforms called slides. I’ve seen what I would call mules called slides, and vice versa. To me though, the classic slide is a flat and has one wide band across the top of the foot.

Even though the slides above aren’t that, I really like both. The blue ones are Loeffler Randall and the red ones Mansur Gavriel. I think suede is really nice in the summer, it’s softer and more feminine than leather. Both of these slides are suede. What do you think?    

About me

I’ve been remarkably non prolific with this blog lately. Besides being busy, I’ve decided I need one of those rethinks. Toiling alone, in obscurity, no longer suits me. When I had a “regular” job, at the end of the day, I got a lot of satisfaction privately knowing I had done the job well.

That’s not the case anymore, lately I’ve been craving something bigger than self satisfaction. I’m craving more collaboration because I’ve been collaborating and I like it. I want my voice to be heard because I believe I  have something to say. Look For The Woman is changing.


I’m not trying to be secretive, or mysterious, but honestly I don’t know where this is going. Please bare with me, it might be interesting. 

I’m working on a project for which I am conjuring up a persona. In this usage, the term persona means an imaginary person who is likely going to be the typical consumer of a given product. As in the consumer of Lancome products is 42, has a college education, is married etc. I just made that up and personas are much more detailed.

Making up personas can be quite fun, bloggers do it to imagine who it is might be reading their blog. Designers use personas to figure out what the end users of their designs need.  Marketers do it to try and get an idea about what their consumers want. You get the idea. 

Can you do me a favor? Below is my persona, “Eve.” Can you tell me three things about her? On a scale of 1-5, 1 being not at all, 5 very much. Thanks for your help!

Do you like her? Is she like you? Is she real? (Don’t over think it.)    

Eve is 60 

She still works part-time

She’s a bit afraid of retirement

She’s a radiologist with a master’s degree and she loves her work

She’s on her second marriage

She has two step-children and one child by her first marriage

The children are on their own, there aren’t any grand children

Eve’s husband is a lawyer who doesn’t plan on retiring soon and loves his practice


Eve loves food, fashion, traveling, and reading

She and her husband have one big dog

Eve doesn’t have a lot of friends, just some good ones

Eve dresses less conservatively than most women her age

Eve has several tattoos

Eve loves her home but would like to downsize to an apartment

Eve’s wondering what she’s going to do when she retires

Eve is not the crafts or hobbies kind

On the weekends Eve and her husband do day, or weekend trips alone or with close friends


Eve had a health scare a few years ago

Eve is a runner

Eve is health conscious but not fanatic

She smoked when she was younger

Eve and her husband have a bottle of wine almost every night with dinner

Eve does not like to shop

Eve is getting more political and liberal as she ages

Eve tends to be depressed sometimes

Eve’s house is not immaculate, but it’s well decorated


Age is just a number

I’ve always disliked this saying, it’s just non-sensical. Age is far more than a number because aging is meaningful. It seems to me that we do ourselves an injustice, trivializing the aging process as if it didn’t matter deeply? And just because the spirit behind the saying is good, the saying is still empty.

That said, did you follow the story about Emmanuel Macron, now president of France? Both he and Donald Trump have a 20+ year age difference with their wives. What I find interesting is that in the French relationship she is older, in the American he is.

I can’t for the life of me imagine an American first lady being 24 years older than her husband! I realize this is a bizarre comparison, isn’t any comparison in which Trump plays a role? What do you think? Is this a cultural thing? 

Random quote

“It took me quite a long time to develop a voice, and now that I have it, I am not going to be silent.”

Madeleine Albright





  • Melanie says:

    First, I love Diana and her life/style approach to fashion.

    Second, this is an exciting new venture for you – I am cheering you on with your change as clearly you embrace it.

    I’m not sure how you want the rankings – 1-5 for each category you mentioned?

    Eve likes fashion but doesn’t like to shop, yet she dresses less conservatively than her friends. Usually fashion people love shopping, new or thrift. That’s the only thing that puzzles me about Eve. The rest rings true.

    Yes, Eve interests me.

  • Haralee says:

    Not sure if I like eve or not. I need to hear more from her. I love the Madeleine Albright quote!

  • Once again…SO much great content, Anita!

    I love Diana and everything she stands for.

    I also love the slides and I’m thinking I’m going to buy a pair – along with some silk PJs – to wear at home.

    I’m so excited for this next evolution of Look For The Woman! You definitely have something to say.

    I’m not sure what to say about Eve – she’s not me – but she’s someone I image I’d enjoy getting to know and could become a good friend. I adore it that she has tattoos.

    I think I’ve said, “Age is just a number” before, but now you’ve made me think twice and you’re right, aging is meaningful and this expression undermines that.

    Esther xx

  • Debi says:

    I like Eve. She appears to be getting ready to enter into a next phase of life. I’m interesting in discovering what she pursues next. I also agree with the shopping/fashion contraction. Perhaps she enjoys online shopping.

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