it’s a wrap, pull the plug

pull the plug
wrapping it up

Like many of us, I feel like saying “it’s a wrap, pull the plug on 2018, I’m done.” But it’s sad to “condemn time,” to wish badly that something just end. 

I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions, and if I make any, I like to get a head start on them. I suppose that way I can feel virtuous the first day of the year, because even though I might be nursing a champagne hangover like everybody else, I’ve at least started something.

The week between Christmas and New Year’s, it seems like the perfect time to start something new. 

Out with the wrapping paper, bows, and tree, out with what I don’t need, or like, out!

One thing I hear lots of people talk about is pulling the plug on some of their social media use.

I know I’m just about satiated with likes, thumbs up, hearts, and endless comments, the same bloody comments.

The problem is that many of us rely on staying at least vaguely in touch with people all over the world, on Facebook, for example. What to do when even limiting the amount of time we spend on social media seems daunting, or even unwise, given we do have to be out there promoting our “brand?”

Scheduling and focus become increasingly important as you begin to narrow in on what it is you really want. The experiences, the creation, all of it calls for focus. Plan, focus, then act.

That’s where my Accountabilibitches come in.

If you’re not attached to a 9-5:00 career, meeting with a group of women who want to be held accountable, is a cool way to do it. 

It’s not that we beat each other if any one of us didn’t do what she was supposed to, it’s that we can talk about what got in the way, and was it really that important if we didn’t get it done.

wrapping it up

Honestly WTF

I really, really like nicely wrapped gifts. And I really, really dislike stuff just thrown in bags or pasted with a cheap ribbon. Yes, it’s the thought that counts, but honestly, you couldn’t bother to put some little time into the wrapping? Aesthetics people, aesthetics.

So, if you still need to wrap some things up, literally, try simple, or do fancy pre-made, just do something, please. These ideas and looks come from Honestly WTF, a blog I follow and love for the way they curate and the DIY they come up with. 


Photograph: Chinyere Ezie

I stop by this window at the Prada store in Soho all the time, occasionally I even take a picture, but I did not see this one. Prada, golliwogs, and polliwogs, and blackface dolls were the debacle of last week’s fashion news, and I find it disingenuous of Prada to play dumb. (Read about the really confusing and twisted etymology of the word golliwog here.) 

What, you didn’t know that blackface was offensive?

Italians too were once discriminated against because their skin was generally darker than that of other, Northern, Europeans. And so we should expect more from them, we should expect more than sentimentality and excuses, humankind shares the history of exploiting and being exploited, a succession that harms us all. We should expect more from ourselves. 

* Read more about “Fashion’s Year in Cultural Dont’s,” by Vanessa Friedman, Fashion Director and Chief Fashion Critic of the New York Times.

Prada gave in to sentimentally and clinging to a past that was supposed to be simple and harmless, a blackface doll, with big red lips and frizzy hair, where’s the harm in that?

The harm is in the caricature of people once so marginalized that you could just make playthings out of them.

Something “exotic,” but still “cute” enough for your children.  


If you like understated, good taste, style and curation, check out the Instagram of Debora Carminati. It’s a soothing feed, filled with clean lines, soft colors, and lovely texture.


 “Dreams and reality are opposites. Action synthesizes them.” 

Assata Shakur

Enjoy your holidays, one and all. I will not be posting until the New Year, I’ll be doing other stuff.



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