I found it. I found my style mojo. Style isn’t just about what we put on, it’s about being comfortable in our own skin. That’s style mojo, and this is how it’s done…
Go your own way.
It’s absolutely true: you can’t copy, you can’t wanna be, you can’t impersonate or make yourself into something you’re not. Have you heard that? I’d heard it for years without really internalizing it. While I wasn’t copying, I was turning a blind eye to being myself. In terms of style, I just didn’t really know what being myself meant.
I’ve come to realize that I am my black clothes, my boots, my somewhat austere look. I am my patternless self. I said sorry to those people who told me I should wear more color. I’m going to have a life long relationship with boots. I got rid of almost every piece of patterned clothing and I’m glad I did. So, go your own way…
But unless you want to frustrate yourself, spend a lot of money, and feel foolish leaving your house, there are two other things you need to take into consideration: your lifestyle and the impression you want to make.
If you’re still a mom who spends most of her time at home, at the gym, and at PTA meetings, you need to own that. If you’re a personal assistant to an executive, embrace that. Busy mothers don’t have to, shouldn’t have to, play dress-up; personal assistants maybe should.
Mom, get yourself some killer sportswear, find your sportswear groove. Assistant, spring for that leather pencil skirt, pretend you’re one of the Mad Men babes. For those of you who proudly proclaim yourselves to be slobs, go for it! Get yourself the absolute best (cashmere?) sweats you can afford, and enjoy your home office in style. But here’s the thing…
Whether we like it or not, we make an impression. Please don’t say that you couldn’t care less; I’ve found that to be almost universally untrue. Since the first cavewoman looked at some plant fibers and realized she could weave them together to make a tie for her hair, or pounded a piece of mastodon skin until it was soft enough to wear, we’ve cared.
If you want to make a certain, specific impression you have to deal with that. The impression thing takes a little work but it can be the most creative and fun aspect of the mojo hunt. Here’s where we can try things on, do the unthinkable and start from scratch, spend some money on cashmere sweats and really take care of ourselves.
For me, this meant realizing that I want to create a certain impression, and that’s not just ok, but helpful. I want people to see me and see a unique and interesting aesthetic when they do. I want people to know that I wear slow- and ethically-manufactured apparel. In order to do this I have had to commit to myself, to my very own skin. And that’s how I found my style mojo.