finding Jane Bond

FotoFlexer_Photo-27-1-1Who is your inner Jane Bond? Who’s the woman inside you who’s sexy, adventurous, highly competent… almost perfect except for one or two little flaws that only add to your considerable charm?

I admit to having a long-running Jane Bond inside me, and I love her very much. She is dangerous and attracted to danger, and I have a bit of that in me. But Jane takes it a step further than I do. I’ve ziplined, but Jane’s ziplined higher, faster, and further than me. I’ve traveled alone, but Jane does it all the time in both high style and low.

Jane is more than a fantasy. A fantasy is something we don’t actually need, don’t necessarily aspire to, something that may have very little to do with who we actually are. But Jane is you.


Jane is you to the nth degree.


Occasionally you glimpse her, usually when you’re at your absolute best. We talk about our authentic self; well, I would like to replace that with our inner Jane. In this day and age, “authentic” sounds a little too mild to me, a bit mealy-mouthed, even. 

I’m Look for the Woman, after all, and I’ve looked into this a bit. I believe we all have an inner Jane Bond: she’s not “authentic” because she hasn’t stopped looking for what she wants. She may become authentic someday, but then again, someday may never come. 

Have you found the Jane Bond in you?


P.S. The picture is from one of my all time favorite movies, Run Lola Run.



  • My Jane Bond surfaced when I was 21, in protest to having been wrapped in a protective bubble all my life. Mother didn’t even allow me to take PE. As a result: I raced Porsches for nine years; dug for minerals and crystals and Mayan artifacts in out of the way places of the world; dove for treasure in the Caribbean; was kidnapped when traveling alone in Honduras and stalked by the Mexican FBI when I was writing about the drug lords. Those are just the things I can openly talk about, although I’ve never written about my kidnapping or the Mexican FBI. Eventually I sought professional help to stop being Jane Bond and an adrenaline junkie. It takes it’s toll on you in ways you can’t imagine.
    xoxox, Brenda

    • Anita Irlen says:

      Brenda, True, true about the toll it takes, but what a life! Almost makes me envious (except for the kidnapping maybe). One question, would you do it over differently? Ok, two questions. How? xx

  • Well, if nothing else, you have my attention. My inner Jane Bond was never allowed to come out and play. So, do your thing and let me vicariously experience the adventure. Thank you!

    • Anita Irlen says:

      Barbara, You know, that’s definitely a part of it for me. When I was a kid, my Jane Bond wasn’t allowed out either. I had to keep my dress clean at all times. But I was tough inside and that needed to come out, I needed to get my dress dirty! I have permission to do that now.

  • Jennifer says:

    I can relate to all but being highly adventurous and an adreniline junkie. My strength is not determined by risk taking. I just don’t like to do it, which makes me no less competent and strong.

  • Very thought-provoking, Anita. I definitely have an inner Jane Bond and I’ve done some crazy and dangerous things, thanks to her! xx

    • Anita Irlen says:

      Esther, Don’t go doing dangerous things! Adventurous yes, dangerous no. Each of us has a different kind of Jane in us. One is going to skydive, another, go skinny dipping 🙂 Little chances can be big deals. xx

  • Carla says:

    This really resonated with me. It reminded me of years ago when Demi did the movie G.I. Jane and so many of us challenged ourselves to find our inner G.I. Jane.

    • Anita Irlen says:

      Carla, Oh yeah! I had forgotten about that film, I loved it. She was so tough (and that Vigo Mortensen 🙂 She was doing it for herself and also for other women. Good message. Glad it resonated with you. Go G.I.Jane.

  • I wish I had a Jane Bond in me. I’m not an adrenaline junkie – never was. I envy people who are – seems so freeing and fun!

    • Anita Irlen says:

      Cathy, I don’t know you very well, but from what I do, I think you have quite a bit of Jane in you. I don’t think it’s just about the adrenaline, it’s also about stepping out of your comfort zone, not just when you have a comfort zone but also when you don’t. Doing hard things for good things.

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