Category: Diversity

ethnic beauty, sisterhood of similar looks

IMG_5468What do people mean when they say “she looks ethnic?” What is ethnic beauty? Lately, when talking about looks, “ethnic” seems to be the code word for African American or Latino, but lots of us are white and ethnic. For example, my Latvian sisters and I. We don’t hide from the term “ethnic”. To us, mostly what it means is, we are not WASPs.



marriage equality, #lovewins


don’t trust anyone over 30

I found myself in an interesting situation last week. It was in connection with one of my favorite blogs…

I looked at the blog early in the morning, as I do most days. As soon as I saw the title of the day’s post, my heart sank. I got a lump in my throat, and I thought, “Wow, big mistake.” You see, the title of the post was the title of an old song about a really horrible time in history and a violent act that took place back then. I’m not trying to be mysterious by not telling you what blog and what song; that’s really not the point here. I don’t want to be snarky. People make honest mistakes. So, you’ll have to trust me when I say the use of this particular song title was wholly inappropriate for a blog post of any sort.


body shaming, body acceptance, my thighs

Part 3 of my Italian Style series is coming, but I felt compelled to talk about this today…

While I am by no means whatsoever into “body shaming,” I reserve the right to dislike my thighs. They’re mine, after all, and I said dislike not hate. When I was younger, I hated my thighs, but now, ostensibly mature, I realize that hating any part of yourself is both pointless and unhealthy. That said, I reserve the right to dislike my thighs, and I believe every woman has the right to dislike any body part she wants.

We human beings are prone to “backlashes”—extreme, antagonistic reactions to trends. In a world where everything happens so quickly that a trend is established in what seems like an hour, only to be replaced in the next, we tend endlessly to swing back and forth between extremes. The backlash to body shaming is “body acceptance.” Where to next?