accountability, bitches

accountability
transformers at universal standard
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bitches 

What if you could be accountable to someone for the things you most want to happen for yourself? And what’s your reaction to that question? 

“I’m accountable only to myself.”
“I’m not accountable to anybody.”
“I don’t need or want to be accountable to anybody.”

Maybe you think that by this stage in your life, you should just be able to make things happen for yourself, by yourself?  

Read a self-help book and just do it! Perhaps you have a shelf of self-help books, but ultimately very few goals attained with their help. Or maybe you’ve been reading the new genre of self-help book, the “all self-help books are shite” self-help books?

Could be that you’re embarrassed to admit that you might actually need to be held accountable for anything, but especially for something you want for yourself!

I know the feeling.

We all put other’s “needs” before our own sometimes, we procrastinate, and sometimes we give in to the tyranny of what is and give up. Then we return to what we gave up on and we start “aspiring” again!

bitch, don’t bitch!

It was these questions, frustrations, and realizations, that caused my friend Jen and I to come up with a solution! “accountabilibitches”! 

We co-opted the word bitch and made it our own, and we are happily bilibitching our way to mutual accountability.

Our idea remains simple: we meet face to face, once a week for one hour. We talk about 1. what we wanted to accomplish the previous week, 2. what actually happened, 3. what worked and 4. what didn’t. 

We ask each other questions along the way. “Did you bite off more than you could chew?” “Why was that particular task so onerous?” “Are you sure you need to do that?” In short, we hold each other accountable for the things we want to do for ourselves!”

The “bitching” part here is not about complaining, it’s about asking each other, “what are you going to get done for yourself, to move closer to your goals, next week, bitch?”

All I’ll say for now is: so far, so good. Jen and I have acquired another bitch! And we’re all three of us happily questioning and laughing our way to accountability. Anyone who has ever been a member of an effective group, knows that the dynamics can be powerful. I think we’ve got something here. More to come.

creativity

Every six months or so, Universal Standard, a brand I have been devoted to since their inception, comes up with something impressive. Whether it’s a new color story, an unusual new silhouette, or an innovative use of fabric, it’s always something that makes me happy. In this case, “transformers.”

My definition: accessories with which you can change your garments. 

The “gathered organza tube,” above, got some funny looks from the girlfriends I showed it to, 

but I happen to like it. I like it the way it’s shown, over the black dress, it looks like a frilly cumberbund. I can see putting an additional belt over it too, perhaps a narrow, gold or silver one?

This “structured netting tee,” was the friend’s favorite, and it’s also mine. I can see wearing it with jeans and heels. I think I would feel funny with the “winging” effect of the sleeves, but I’m very tempted to try it and see. 

For those of us who don’t want to completely expose our upper arms, this is a nice little option.  

What do you think?

*See more “transformers” here.

quoting

“You can start late, look different, be uncertain, and still succeed.”

—Misty Copeland

Anita

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