Yes, this is Venus de Milo at the Louvre Museum. I was taking pictures of people taking pictures of…
I’ve been doing dry brushing lately. What is it? It’s brushing your whole body with a natural bristle brush, not wet in the shower, but dry. Most often it’s suggested that you do it in the morning, before you shower. But sometimes I’ve done it before bed.
The dry brushing has helped soften my skin. It sloughs off dead skin, which I have plenty of now that winter is finally here. It makes my skin softer and seem more pliable. Then some “hydrotherapy” in the shower, moisturizer afterwards, and you’re good to go.
What did you think of Brené Brown’s TED talk? (Here, if you haven’t seen it.) It blew me away. She is, of course, extremely articulate and personable. She is an expert in her field and obviously dedicated to her research. For me though, what was most compelling about her talk was the story she told about herself and the way she modeled vulnerability while speaking about it. She made vulnerability look easy! But as Brown herself acknowledges, the fear of exposing oneself, of being “found out” and then being rejected is a powerful deterrent.
When I started this blog, it was my intention to tell stories. I knew I wanted to tell the stories of women I admired, but what I didn’t know was how much I wanted to tell about myself, tell my own story. It’s my blog, I said, I can do what I want with it. Why open myself up and shine a light on anything unflattering about myself? This is public, after all—why talk about myself at all? Does the public really need more self-confession, more selfies? But I realized my reticence was mainly about being vulnerable. The thought was scary as hell!
I once had a boss who had two sheros: Frida Kahlo and Marilyn Monroe. Darkness and light, fragmentation and wholeness, hard and soft in both of them. Interesting, right? Well to me, that describes most women. Kahlo’s art work was once described as a “ribbon around a bomb.” If you know anything about Kahlo’s art and life you know how apt that description is. And what do we say about Monroe? Well, she appears to be ditzy but she’s smart, she’s open and unattainable. Undoubtably though, both women were vulnerable.
There was a time when I wanted to hide my vulnerability. Honestly, I wanted to be invulnerable, hard as nails. But I was the opposite, and I felt weak and I equated vulnerability with weakness. Today, I’m trying to stop seeing vulnerability as weakness, but I find it increasingly hard to do. I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s noticed that misogyny seems to be blossoming everywhere. It’s in our face, make no mistake: from childhood to old age, women are under siege.
I’ve found that vulnerability, and the ways in which it’s an asset, has been a popular topic lately. Please see this amazing TED talk called The Power of Vulnerability given by Brené Brown…